"ALL panic is built on a lie. Period."
If you are one who panics, this will be a good blog for you to read and hold on to. If you are prone to panic attacks, treat this as bible! ALL panic is built on a lie being played out in your head. ALL panic attacks result from the lies being stretched out in your mind as far as they can go with no plans of ever stopping, so you have to learn to stop them yourself. In order to stop the panic in its tracks or to prevent it from becoming a full blown attack, you MUST find the lie that the scenario in your mind was or is being built on. Now this is a simple yet complicated concept. So let me explain: the simple part is that no matter how you look at it, there's a lie there that's designed to make and keep you afraid. The complex part of this is that once fear takes hold, it will show you the truth of the situation(s) you're afraid of. So the fear is built on a lie, but supported by true possibilities. Sort of. For example, if you have a fear of heights, the lie is that you're going to fall to your death. The truth is that if you're standing above a cliff or on top of a building, it is quite possible to fall to your death. But the real truth is that that's not going to happen if you stay away from the edge. Another example: you're not making as much money as you'd like and the cost of living keeps going up. Eventually you're not going to be able to pay your bills, which will cause you to not be able to eat, resulting in major weight loss or starvation, or to end up losing your home and have to live on the streets. (Or worse, move back in with your mom.) The truth is that all these things could be real possibilities---IF YOU DON'T BUDGET or find another income stream! OR--how about this one: if you don't stop living beyond your means. (Stop medicating your worry with those shopping sprees or gifts for yourself on days that aren't your birthday!) If you're running short on cash, don't wait until it's time to pay the rent or mortgage to try to figure out what to do. Your rent is due at the same time every month. PLAN AHEAD!
Getting back to the subject. ALL panic is built on a lie that's trying to take your head out of the game of life. And it IS personal. Panic is a personal attack against you. It is highly probable that you have some brain power that could take you or others to higher heights. If you are one who panics, imagine what would come from your mind if fear didn't always have it tied up. Many, many geniuses are panic prone. Why? To keep them from discovering things that would make this life easier. Side note: fear only attacks what it is afraid of, and it's afraid of everyone who could make life easier for themselves or others.
Getting back to the subject again. Panic results from a lie or a pack of lies specifically designed to make and keep you afraid. To further explain this, I will need the help of the three little pigs and the big, bad wolf. For the sake of understanding, imagine yourself a little pig with two brothers. Then, imagine fear as the big, bad, wolf. You know the story: three pigs--potential rib dinner feast for a hungry, lying, conniving wolf who had to huff and puff and blow their houses down. But where was the lie? He did blow down two of the houses, after all. But the lie wasn't in whether or not he could blow them down. The lie was actually in whether or not the house built of straw and the one of sticks were smart investments! So the lie happened long before the wolf got to house #1 and house #2! And there was a whole lot of truth to the threat of having come close to being devoured by the wolf. So when you examine the situation that's causing you to panic, remember to look waaaay back into your situation until you find the lie!
Sometimes you have to look further up the road to find the lie that's causing you to panic. To understand this one, we will need to call on Cinderella, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, Tiana, and all of the other princesses from fairytale land. I just need to ask them one simple question. Here goes: How long was the prince charming after he married you or rode you off into the sunset? Enough said. But seriously, often the lie of the panic will focus on a future happening. If this is the case, you have to ask yourself if the disaster threatened is: #1 really possible and/or #2 as disastrous as it seems.
Regardless of whether the lie comes before of after a happening in your life, remember that ALL panic is built on a lie. Instead of focussing on the threat of the panic, focus on the fact that there's an untamed lie running around your dome. Hunt that sucker down and lay him to rest! And if all else fails, reread today's quote and repeat it over and over in your mind until you shut up the lie that's causing you to suffer.
Tuesday, May 14, 2013
Tuesday, May 7, 2013
Keys To Success
"The real difference between successful people and those who are not so successful is that the successful ones are TAUGHT to think positively."
Negative feelings are natural; positive ones are supernatural, so you have to work at them. Negative conversation is natural; positive ones are not, so you have to work at those, too. How do you do that, you ask? It's not as simple as it sounds, but here's a pretty straight forward prescription: in everything you do, and in all that happens to you, find some good it in. Then, when you talk about it to someone else, stay true to how you feel, but mention the positive aspects of it more than the negative. If the person you're talking to goes negative, and insists you do the same, remove yourself from that person's presence. From there, surround yourself with people who are positive. They'll be the ones whose happiness is seen beyond the smile on their faces. You know those. They are the ones that tend to sing or hum songs that are not funeral marches. They are also the ones who compliment others even when the person they are complimenting is not around. They will compliment others to you, i.e. "I like that dress so-and-so is wearing. It looks nice on her." They are also the ones who are not complaining about everything from having to get up in the morning to being angry at the sun for knowing about their plans for the day, and deciding not to shine just to ruin them (you know that type). And one last identifier: they are those who absolutely CANNOT take a compliment. I call them "BUT people". When you compliment them, the conversation goes a little something like this:
"Hey, so-and-so. That's a nice car you have out there."
"Yeah, it's okay, BUT I wanted something different. I like this about it, BUT, I don't like that. I know it's brand new, BUT I really should have bought something different..." or
"You look nice today..."
"Yeah, thanks, BUT I'd look nicer if my hair would have curled the way I wanted it to. I went to get it cut BUT the lady didn't cut it right..." or
"Good morning, So-and-So. How are you today?"
"Blessed and highly favored..." (My bad. Couldn't resist the religiosity humor).
Most of the people you encounter on a daily basis--to INCLUDE family members, coworkers, "friends", lovers, acquaintances, and others--naturally have a negative mindset. That means that the advice you get from them is going to come naturally from a negative place. Most of the time they don't even know they're being negative. They call it "keeping it real." Consequently, the encouragement, love and support you seek from them, which is necessary for real success, is not going to be there because those things are positive. That's why there are so many bad relationships within family circles and between people in general. Most people think positive feelings come naturally for humans. This is so not true! Love, for example, is not a given; it is taught. Contrary to popular belief, mothers don't naturally love their babies, especially if the child was not conceived in love. Before becoming a mother, it's best for the child if the woman already knows how to love. And it works the same way for fathers. There is no guarantee that the parents will grow to love the child. None at all! Anyway, the point is that it takes work to be--and to stay--a positive person.
Success, however, is not based on the positivity of a person. You could be in the right place at the right time and luck up on success. The resulting behavior, on the other hand, depends on what's on the inside of that "lucky" person. Inner feelings are like velcro, and in this case, like charges attract. If your inner feelings are negative, you will attract that which is negative to you (misery loves company). If you think/feel positive, positive things will come your way--even if at first glance it's negative. (That means that sometimes you have to look deeper. Losing a friend, for example, is only bad if the friend was good for you.) Simply stated, when you cross the success of a person with negative inner feelings, the end result will be arrogance, insecurity, conceit, bigotry, judgement, jealousy, covetousness, etc. When success is met with positive inner feelings, the end result is confidence, assurance, fairness, a willingness to help others to succeed/achieve, etc.
As a man thinketh, so is he. You are what you think you are, and what a man tells you he thinks about himself won't always coincide with how he really feels, and if you pay close attention, you'll know the difference! ("Blessed and highly favored"! My bad again!)
Take some time today to pull something positive your way. Make it a practice, then watch how quickly things will change for the better in your life.
Negative feelings are natural; positive ones are supernatural, so you have to work at them. Negative conversation is natural; positive ones are not, so you have to work at those, too. How do you do that, you ask? It's not as simple as it sounds, but here's a pretty straight forward prescription: in everything you do, and in all that happens to you, find some good it in. Then, when you talk about it to someone else, stay true to how you feel, but mention the positive aspects of it more than the negative. If the person you're talking to goes negative, and insists you do the same, remove yourself from that person's presence. From there, surround yourself with people who are positive. They'll be the ones whose happiness is seen beyond the smile on their faces. You know those. They are the ones that tend to sing or hum songs that are not funeral marches. They are also the ones who compliment others even when the person they are complimenting is not around. They will compliment others to you, i.e. "I like that dress so-and-so is wearing. It looks nice on her." They are also the ones who are not complaining about everything from having to get up in the morning to being angry at the sun for knowing about their plans for the day, and deciding not to shine just to ruin them (you know that type). And one last identifier: they are those who absolutely CANNOT take a compliment. I call them "BUT people". When you compliment them, the conversation goes a little something like this:
"Hey, so-and-so. That's a nice car you have out there."
"Yeah, it's okay, BUT I wanted something different. I like this about it, BUT, I don't like that. I know it's brand new, BUT I really should have bought something different..." or
"You look nice today..."
"Yeah, thanks, BUT I'd look nicer if my hair would have curled the way I wanted it to. I went to get it cut BUT the lady didn't cut it right..." or
"Good morning, So-and-So. How are you today?"
"Blessed and highly favored..." (My bad. Couldn't resist the religiosity humor).
Most of the people you encounter on a daily basis--to INCLUDE family members, coworkers, "friends", lovers, acquaintances, and others--naturally have a negative mindset. That means that the advice you get from them is going to come naturally from a negative place. Most of the time they don't even know they're being negative. They call it "keeping it real." Consequently, the encouragement, love and support you seek from them, which is necessary for real success, is not going to be there because those things are positive. That's why there are so many bad relationships within family circles and between people in general. Most people think positive feelings come naturally for humans. This is so not true! Love, for example, is not a given; it is taught. Contrary to popular belief, mothers don't naturally love their babies, especially if the child was not conceived in love. Before becoming a mother, it's best for the child if the woman already knows how to love. And it works the same way for fathers. There is no guarantee that the parents will grow to love the child. None at all! Anyway, the point is that it takes work to be--and to stay--a positive person.
Success, however, is not based on the positivity of a person. You could be in the right place at the right time and luck up on success. The resulting behavior, on the other hand, depends on what's on the inside of that "lucky" person. Inner feelings are like velcro, and in this case, like charges attract. If your inner feelings are negative, you will attract that which is negative to you (misery loves company). If you think/feel positive, positive things will come your way--even if at first glance it's negative. (That means that sometimes you have to look deeper. Losing a friend, for example, is only bad if the friend was good for you.) Simply stated, when you cross the success of a person with negative inner feelings, the end result will be arrogance, insecurity, conceit, bigotry, judgement, jealousy, covetousness, etc. When success is met with positive inner feelings, the end result is confidence, assurance, fairness, a willingness to help others to succeed/achieve, etc.
As a man thinketh, so is he. You are what you think you are, and what a man tells you he thinks about himself won't always coincide with how he really feels, and if you pay close attention, you'll know the difference! ("Blessed and highly favored"! My bad again!)
Take some time today to pull something positive your way. Make it a practice, then watch how quickly things will change for the better in your life.
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