"As a man thinketh, so is he."
It's been said that "you are what you eat". Well, that can be true because if you sit around and eat unhealthy food all day long, you will be an unhealthy person. If you eat fatty foods all day, you will gain weight. If you eat light, you'll weigh a lot less than you would if you ate heavier. But let's not take this to the extreme. You won't turn into a sweet potato pie or a nacho cheese Dorito or even a BUR-rito just because you've been feasting that way all day, but you won't be as healthy as someone who eats well-balanced, well proportioned meals. So be careful what you eat.
On the other hand, you are what you think. Thinking is quite different from eating, yet they share important similarities. The main difference is that eating is physical and thinking is not. Thinking is spiritual because it is intangible and takes energy to do (it differs from emotional in that it doesn't require emotions and from mental because we're not talking about disorders or abilities). The greatest commonality between the two is that they both require ingestion, digestion and elimination; physical for the one and spiritual for the other. So though you are only technically what you eat, you are definitely what you think.
Now, for you road scholars out there who want to challenge the metaphor or simile here, we are not talking about the level of thought required to perform an action or carry out a task, but rather deep thinking. It's the stuff you meditate on or can't stop thinking about. It's the bullying that you can't let go of, or the revenge that you must seek. It's the mocking that you can't shut down or the heartbreak that you can't get over. It's the unfairness or the prejudice, the rejection or the ridicule, the success or the failure, the new house or the new car, the fancy clothes, expensive perfume or make-up. It's where you go to church or where you go to school. It's where you live or where you want to live, where you dine or where you want to dine. It's what became of your kids or what you or your spouse do for a living, etc. Bad or good, good or bad, all of these things are what cause you to be who you are and/or act as you act. You are whatever you think about. You are what dominates your thoughts, so...
...if your physical, spiritual, emotional or mental diet needs improving, so do you! Just as you must watch what you eat, you must watch how you think. What motivates you to do what you do, act as you act, say what you say to others, and/or think what you think about others? It's your own thoughts. (No, churchfolk, the devil ain't making you do what you do. It's your own stinking thinking!) If you're jealous of or judging other people harshly, it's because you haven't gotten over a pain of your own. It's because you're not who you want to be, or because you don't feel how you want to feel. But remember this: that's no one else's fault. Your being and existence starts with how you feel about yourself or your life. Don't hate the person who has more than you. Hate the thoughts that you have about not being able to have what you want enough to get rid of them and get what you truly desire! The only thing stopping you is you. It's not other people. If someone important to you told you that you'd never amount to anything, stop thinking or meditating on those negative words. Think about what you'd have to do to be what you desire to be---but that first begins with YOUR desire. You have to want to be something first. Don't expect good thoughts to fall out of the sky. In this hateful world, you have to hunt for good thoughts. The good news is that they are not hard to find if you look for them in the right places. Don't look for your drunk dad to pat you on the back. Hell, he's drunk! Don't look for your mom who is always putting others down to build you up. She's hateful! It's not personal. And for God's sake, stop looking for a mate to validate you. If you were negative when you attracted your mate, he/she was attracted to your negativity. He/she's not trying to fix you, and if he/she is, it's not for you. It's for them! Once you change, they're not going to like you anymore! Even if they put a lot of time into getting you to feel better about yourself. Trust me. He/she is not going to like the new you!
Don't look for a negative person to give you a green light. It's not going to happen. Find it in yourself to become positive. Birds of a feather flock together. If you want your thoughts to be positive, don't hang around negative people. If you want the people you hang around to be positive, don't say negative things to them. Do remember, however, that truth is NOT negative. If your child doesn't look like Barbie, don't focus on how beautiful she is; focus on her personality or intelligence. If the child is beautiful, but a nitwit, encourage her to be a model. (Just kidding! Well, sort of!) Lies and exaggerations are always negative. Positivity MUST be based on truth. Especially positivities about yourself, because just because you lie to yourself about stuff and believe it, doesn't mean others aren't going to see it as a lie. That will just lead you to be arrogant, narcissistic and, well, stupid! Encourage yourself, but keep it real!!!
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