"The healthiest thing to do is to love...you!"
If this world were yours, what would you do with it? Now before you get too deep into that pipe dream you're about to express, know that you can't give what you don't have. You can't give what you don't know anything about. So the real answer to the question is...that you will give whatever you have stored up in your heart. Newsflash: Whatever you are holding in your heart is what you are giving to the world right now. Let's do a little exercise to measure what you're giving:
Say the last days of humanity as we know it came and went last night. Where would you describe your current whereabouts? Do you feel like you're in Heaven or is your life a living hell? If you woke up tomorrow and learned you'd be spending the rest of eternity thinking, feeling and believing exactly as you do now, what would your thoughts be in your final resting place? Love? Joy? Happiness? Fear? Revenge? Anger? Displacement? Rejection? Insecurity? Inferiority? Piety? Superiority? Now keep it totally honest, and remember: these thoughts are permanent. You can't change any of them. Ever. Ouch. I know that thought is frightening for some of you.
Okay. Let's back up. What if you had one last chance to change things for yourself. What would you change? Do you know? Well, if you know what needs to be changed, why wait until it's almost too late to do something about it? Why not do it now? Far too many people are existing in situations that they know are less than desirable for them, but are doing nothing about it. Why is that? Because most people will settle for what they believe is the lesser of two evils: being in a mediocre or a bad relationship is better than being in no relationship at all, for example. NOT TRUE!!! Being in no relationship at all is so much better than being in one that keeps you wishing for something more pleasant. Why do people think that the only alternative to being in a relationship is loneliness? It isn't. Travel is an option. It doesn't have to be an international or cross country trek; a simple visit to a nearby favorite place is all that it will take to add spice to your life. Friendships work; with the same or opposite gender. The friendship doesn't have to be a high maintenance one. It could actually be an acquaintance. How about livening a family relationship that you haven't given any attention in a while? Okay, you don't have to be totally in love with the person you're spending time with, just be able to enjoy them long enough for a nice visit. No, you don't have to stay the whole weekend. Just be there long enough to avoid the rigor mortis of monotony. Yes, monotony. Most people are not as lonely as they think they are; their lives are just monotonous. They do the same things day in and day out and think the only solution to their boredom is a mate. That's like finding a skunk and bringing it home just because you don't have a pet!!!
The hell that most people live in is a direct result of relationships that shouldn't be or never should have been!! Even if the hell is not directly yours. Maybe your mom and dad should have never been together, and now you're stuck dealing with things in life that would have never been in your consciousness if your mom or your dad had been someone else. The constant fighting, drug use, blaming each other, cursing each other, the attempts at pulling you and/or your siblings to side with one parent against the other, the abandonment because one felt like he/she wasn't ready for a family, the enabling or the codependency, etc. Whatever the case may be, the hell you inherited doesn't have to be a life sentence. And for God's sake, please don't fix the inherited problems with a relationship and/or children!! Address the problem and heal. Don't start another generation of that problem, PLEASE!!
If this world were yours, what would you give to it? The same problems you have, or would it be something healthy? If you don't have anything healthy to give, don't fool yourself into believing you can give what you don't have. Instead, GET HEALTHY! Identify YOUR problem, take the necessary steps to solve it, find something constructive to spend your newfound time doing, then share your work with the rest of the world. If you're an addict because you were born to alcoholic parents, do the twelve step program or seek professional help. In doing so, you may find what you were really born to do---say singing--and join a choir or form a band. Hell, get a contract and sing solo. Don't waste your talent because your mom or dad was a bum. Get THEIR monkey off your back and bless the world with whatever gift or talent you have hidden underneath their junk. The healthiest thing to do is find a way to love you instead of self-destructing because you can't love them. That way, instead of drinking your life away, you could be loving others and helping them to find use for their lives through your music. After all, many of them have the same problem you have, but may not have the will power to do anything about it without YOUR help. Your music just may be that balm in Gilead. Be constructive, not destructive. Help this world to be a better place by gracing it with what God gave to you to give to give to others. And that's why...
...I blog.
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