What do you need to get completely out of? A funk? The hood? Your church? Those funky clothes you've been wearing for the past three days? A pity party? A bad relationship? A dead end job? A lie? A default friendship (you know the one where your friend typically brings you down instead of up)? A bad habit? A bad habitat? A circle of people who don't sharpen you? An unhappy life altogether (and no, I don't mean suicide)? A bad, bad, bad situation?
This list could go on forever, but I don't need to tell you what you need to get up and out of. Chances are, you already know. You may try to act like you don't, but you do. If it's no good for you, get up and get out. If no one in it is getting better, get up and get out. If it brings more bad news than good, get up and get out. If it's weighing you down, get up and get out. If your loved ones are suffering, get up and get out. If it's costing you more than you can afford, get up and get out. If it's bringing you down, get up and get out. Awww, get up and get the hell out if you know it's destroying you. Get up and get the hell out if you're destroying someone else. Get up and get the hell out if you don't know whether or not it's destroying you cuz that means you're confused as hell!
How do you get out? Not cold turkey, unless you have the means to do that or if the situation is life or death. If no one's life is in imminent danger, devise a plan to go, but make it a good one. Don't jump from the frying pan into the fire. If your mate is not doing you any justice, don't move in with your sister and her four rotten kids. Two cats in one house is a recipe for disaster; one worse than fire and gasoline. If you're sleeping on the couch, don't move into a place where you'll be sleeping on the floor. If you don't get along with your mom, for Heaven's sake, don't move back in with her! If your family member/friend is in a rocky situation, don't move in there, either. If you can, save money and move into your own place--even if it's a studio and you have to rent a storage space for the rest of your belongings (try not to store them at someone else's place. That rarely works out in the end). If your money is short, don't move in with anyone who is barely making ends meet, in an effort to "help" him/her save or cut down on bills". That's a trap waiting to ensnare you. Once you move in there, it will become your fault that he/she can't pay them on time! The worse thing you can do is move in with someone who is not stable him/herself. Don't move in with anyone with selfish motives because you'll move in a friend, live there as a target, and leave an enemy. Trust me. I know that one all too well. And from both sides!
If you're going to get out, get completely out. Don't leave one hard bed to make another. Analyze your situation, work with what you've got, devise a plan to go, but make sure you're completely out of the situation. But be very careful not to exchange one problem for another. It's the problem that you're getting away from; not just the person. If you know two people with similar issues, one is no better than the other. Get away from the issue! Moving away from one controlling personality to another one will just be a waste of time and money, and a huge disappointment waiting to happen. If your relationship is not solid, don't have a baby; that's staying papers. You need to be serving walking papers. If you hate working as a cashier, leaving Wal-Mart to work for Target is probably not going to be a good idea. Yeah, I know Target pays more, but the problem is that you don't like working retail!
Get up and get completely out. Don't fix the symptoms; fix the problem. If you're bound, it's because you haven't freed yourself, and only the real truth can make you free. Look at the stone cold truth of your situation. Make the decision about whether or not you truly want to get out. If the answer is yes, start making your plans to go. When you go, don't take the problem with you. If you are not getting along with your mate, don't give him/her the address so he/she can come and go as he/she pleases. You may as well stay where you are! Keep it real with yourself. If you need to go, go. If not, stay, but if you're going to go, go all the way!
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